some cases years, then either or the person comes upto you and 'proposes' you. What do you do? You accept it as you already started develping some feelings for that person. Now you spend maximum of your time either in phone calls, chats, or going out with that person. You have less time for Allah and your family. And obviously, you are no longer in Hijab with that person. He/she is a non-mahram. You, certainly, have to maintain your hijab. But all the way through you SLOWLY SLOWLY eased your hijab (clothing and behaviour).

Case 2: Imagine the same person but in this case you havent met the person yet. There is no meeting, no phone calls, no chats. You are totally strangers. But one fine day, that person approaches you and tells you that he/she likes you and wants to be your 'partner'. What will you do? Answer sincerely. You will reject him/her instantly and tell the person to never approach you. All this while you are in hijab with the person (who is your non-mahram) and maybe you will maintain it more strictly in front of the person.

 

But what happened? It was the same person. If you tell me, you fell for the way the person behaves, treats you, his/her character, face (which is rare excuse of present generation), etc. then all that is same. You did not even give think for a while but rejected him/her. Why?

 

Let me explain you with the help of an Ayah. Read it very carefully.

"O you who have believed, do not follow the footsteps of Satan. And whoever follows the footsteps of Shaytan - indeed, he enjoins immorality and wrongdoing." [Nur 24:21]. 

In this Ayah, Allah mentions FOOTSTEPS of shaytan and not shaytan. Why? Lets go back to our two cases. In the first case, it was the footsteps of shaytan and in the second case, it was shaytan. Gave you a chill, right?

 

If the shaytan comes to just 'like that', your never gonna listen to him. Because this is how we are. Allah has instilled in us the ability to differentiate between right and wrong. But when the Shaytan comes to you slowly, slowly, you dont realize it. He keeps pulling you closer to him without you realizing it. First he will be like its just a meeting, Allah never said you cannot interact with the opposite gender. Then he is like its just a phone call, he/she needs help, Allah never said we cannot help the opposite gender. Then he be like its just a coffee, there is no big deal in going to starbucks. But this is how you follow the footsteps of Shaytan and he pulls you away from Allah. He makes you transgress against Allah's law.

 

Allah(SWT) says in the Quran,"And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse(zina). Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way."[Isra 17:32]

Here, again Allah(SWT) says do not approach(get closer to) zina, not dont commit zina. This is because Haraam relationships is an approach of zina. Once your in 'that' relationship, Shaytan will continue pulling you until you commit zina (which is a major sin in Islam). But if the same person would just approach you for zina, you know how anyone (including you) will react.

 

I hope you guys realize where the problem now is. Here are some steps to let go of this sin and maintain any further problems in the future:

1. Make the intention to stop all this for the sake of Allah.

2. Stop talking to that person. Just stop. You dont have to message the person and be like 'Iam sorry. Islam does not allow me. I cant be with you, so- and-so'. No, just cut it off. Stop picking their phone calls. Stop meeting him/her. Delete their phone number. And dont wait for tomorrow. Do it today.

3. If you think you really have developed feelings for that person, tell that person to send a proposal for marriage to your Wali(guardian) or you can do it too. But if you see the person hesitates, let go.

4. Do dhikr. Read Quran. Peform Salah. Have your mind occupied with Allah

5. Maintain your hijab with all non-mahrams. Talk with them only its very necessary. Be polite but not so polite that the person falls for you.